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Wedding photos- divorce

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Runningmom1512 · 17/05/2025 14:10

Just wanting to know really what others did with things like wedding photo's/family photos after a divorce/separation. For me we just drifted apart so there isn't any hate really to my ex. I know there's no right or wrong way of doing this, but just wondered what others did with wedding photos/family photos after divorce/separation

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Tbrh · 18/05/2025 08:47

ARainyNightInSoho · 18/05/2025 08:34

I am really happy I have the pictures of my (divorced) parent’s wedding. It was an awful marriage and I remember being relieved when they got around to separating when I was in my teens. My dad was a weirdo, alcoholic areshole. My mum went on to have a freer and much happier life afterwards.
I understand the need to put bad memories behind us. But, all of our lives are a mixture of good and bad and I would rather make sense of it as a whole rather than pretending it was all good. There’s love in the wedding photos, and I was a product of that love even though it went wrong very quickly. And it’s real family history. Not manipulated by a keeping up appearances optimism.

Put the photos somewhere you can only see them if you really want to. But don’t throw them away.

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TammyJones · 18/05/2025 08:49

CowTown · 17/05/2025 18:59

My dad kept theirs in the loft—I have them now as adult.

I’m keeping my for my dd
My dh’s parents were divorced
the original was burnt (mil).
but grandad had kept his copy.
we received it in our forties , and it is very precious to us.
my dh says it was nice to see them so happy and also all his family were there.

TammyJones · 18/05/2025 08:52

CowTown · 18/05/2025 07:41

I’m glad I have my parents’ wedding photos. No, I’ll never frame them. Yes, there was infidelity in the marriage. I would be cross if my parents had thrown them out.

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I hope dd will want it.
There are some really good photos of my late dad as well.

TammyJones · 18/05/2025 08:54

breadpie · 18/05/2025 08:21

The children are unlikely want them... Why would they? I kept my engagement ring for my daughter and she doesn't want that either. I keep meaning to flog it but know I won't get the full value so over two decades later, it's still up the corner of a drawer

my dd wanted the rings (wedding and engagement).
I had intended to leave them to her in the will, but she asked for them in her twenties. so I happily passed them on

minnienono · 18/05/2025 08:57

Exh has mine and other albums, for the dc

TheyFuckYouUpYourMamAndDad · 18/05/2025 09:16

I got divorced 30 years ago and my mum kept mine…after she died last year we were clearing the house, my wedding album was in a cupboard. I had completely forgotten about it and cringed when I saw my ‘Lady Diana’ 80s style dress 😆

I was going to chuck it but my daughters wanted it (fair enough, it was photos of their mum AND dad, which they’d never seen before 🤷‍♀️).

I am glad, now, that I didn’t go with my first instinct when I divorced, which was to burn it, as their dad passed away two years ago and they didn’t have a single photo of him.

Arthurnewyorkcity · 18/05/2025 12:41

Also agree with a previous poster, i feel photos reflect a lie. I didnt want the jewellery either. To me it symbolised a failed marriage and broken vows. I don't want to see them. I'd ask your children if they want them rather than assume they do, some of course may really want them and be upset if they were thrown but don't assume all people feel this way. It's very individual

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