Tips to stop crying

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Dh left me after 35 years together and I’m still crying two weeks later. We need to have some serious conversation on money and practicalities but all I do is cry. I want to see my adult dc but don’t want to be a blubbering mess. I have lovely friends who invite me out but as well as the tendency to burst into tears my face and eyes are a constant blotchy mess. How do I control the tears

Hello... firstly I'm so sorry you're in the is horrible position.. I am 2 months in myself.

I'm not a very cry-y person, and although I've cried a lot it isn't overwhelming. But when I feel the least likely to cry:

When I'm busy. Work/volunteering/taking things to the tip/ kids to school things etc etc.
When I'm really bloody angry (quite a lot at the moment)
The day after a counselling session - where I will cry and cry

Have you seen a counsellor? I think it could be worth it. And don't put off seeing your kids, they will want to see you too

Sending you a hug and lots of strength

I was like this 2 years ago. For me it was 20 years of stability and almost not knowing anything else. What would happen to house, kids, friends, would I be ok money wise??? All that was so overwhelming.

It may be my personality but I found focussing on the divorce helped gave me a purpose. Planning the financials, looking at where I was going to live, building spreadsheets galore!

Spend time with GOOD friends, they wont care if you're a mess. You may not want the split but start thinking of opportunities, anywhere you fancy going?

So sorry, OP. The thing I found that helped me was taking control of things I could control. I knew that we had to get the house valued so I focused on making sure the place looked nice. I’m three months in and I’m not crying as much. But then I’ve been really bloody angry too!

Thank you for your kind comments. Yes I’m better when doing practical things and yes to so much anger. I just need to stop crying when having conversations and fed up of the blotchy face which is stopping me going out.

I’ve cried for 6 weeks. I’ve cried to probably everyone I’ve come into contact with-car salesman, doctor, my boss, lady who took my blood, everyone! It’s so hard and I found it even harder when people asked how I was. As the weeks have passed, I have cried less, but there are odd days where the tears just won’t stop. It’s so difficult.

I keep crying at totally inappropriate moments and at such random things. I can't tell you when it will stop but it will. I'm so sorry we're all in this shitty boat.

In a years time, I hope we will all be so much happier ❤️

My husband left 2 years ago next month, and despite having sorted out the house, which im
now paying for and is in my sole name, I just really don’t want to divorce him. I still love him very much and cannot possibly reconcile the fact this is meant to be it.
He insists it’s over and even though neither of us have anybody else, I just feel worse each month, not better.
I am so scared that if this continues after 2 years, when is the heartbreak actually going to end?

I am crying too. I've been crying for 3 almost 3 months because "he doesn't know whether he wants a relationship". I told him Monday it was ultimatum time. I feel a little better with only 1 outburst today. Its the up in the air element maybe?

I’m crying aswell. Have blubbed to many random person. I am sometimes ok during the day but night time is hell. I’m just so sad.