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Don't know what to do

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Justwhy2 · 15/05/2025 21:44

I (40f) have fallen out of love with my (50m) husband. I just don't like him very much any more - no big issues, no real fighting. I think I have just checked out. We have 2 children, 9 and 7. I have started considering divorce, however I have 2 concerns.

Firstly, I earn almost double what my husband earns. I could buy a modest house and manage, wouldn't be much worse off than I am now. But I don't think he could afford a house, which would impact on our kids. I don't want this for him or the kids.

Second, my daughter (7) was talking to me the other day about her friend whose parents separated last year. She said her friend is very sad, and that 'she is too young for her parents to get divorced' - my heart broke.

Has anyone dealt with this sort of financial situation, or separated with kids this age, and can give me some advice on either issue?

Or do I just suck it up and carry on for a while? I don't hate him, but have no interest in intimacy etc. No interest in a new relationship either.

Please be gentle!

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millymollymoomoo · 15/05/2025 21:56

He would be able to afford a house - as he’d be likely awarded more assets to allow this and you less if you earn more ( obviously that’s a generic statement without understanding your specifics)

I think if you’re done you’re done
sometimes it’s better to separate before it gets to the point where civilness or amicably is impossible - eg you’ve got to the point of resentment/hatred/affair etc

children can be ok as long as you both put them first

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