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Reconciliation,separation or divorce?

4 replies

ChaosCoordinator2 · 13/05/2025 13:08

After my appointment with the solicitor i am now at a crossroads.
My situation is this- just before lockdown my husband did something that has made me lose any trust in him and I am no longer sure i even love him. It was an act towards me but not violent. He left for one week at my insistence but came back to live in the home due to lockdown, I would have preferred he stayed away but as joint owner he was entitled to return.
He expressed no actual remorse at the act and in my eyes has done nothing to show remorse in the years following.
He thinks i should be over it and wants to reconcile whilst showing no signs of making things up to me.
I feel i have three options-
1.Reconcile with him and continue the marriage as if nothing has happened
2.Live in the same house but living separate lives.
3.Divorce and live separately.
We would have enough equity in the house for us to buy two small houses.
We earn roughly the same annual salary
We have no dependent children.
Thoughts /comments welcomed

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TotemPolly · 13/05/2025 13:10

Sorry , but only you know the answer to that one !

Mrsttcno1 · 13/05/2025 13:28

I don’t understand how there’s even a question- get the divorce done

Babysteps123 · 13/05/2025 18:46

With no dependents I would say divorce. With children to consider it's much more complicated.
Can you maybe see a therapist to talk through your options and get to the bottom of your feelings? Then you can make a decision with much more clarity.

yeesh · 13/05/2025 18:57

3 why is it even a question?

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