Hello everyone
i need some serious advice.
i have 2 children with my partner. One is a toddler and the other has additional needs. I do not want to be with my partner anymore I haven’t for a very long time. We aren’t married, don’t own a house or have anything that financially ties us together. I’m so desperate to leave but I know he won’t let me leave with the kids without a fight. I want to leave and come to a sensible co parenting arrangement but he absolutely will not let that happen. Whenever the topic is even brought up he just says “they’ll live with me and you can see them a few times a week” I can’t have that. I won’t leave without my kids. I am the complete default parent, I get up with them, put them to bed, get them to school/nursery on time, make sure they have all their appointments etc you get my drift. He is an active dad in the sense that when I’m at work all day he is the main person for our oldest (he doesn’t work and youngest comes to work with me) and he cooks, is around all the time but overall it’s ME who does the most. He sleeps in most mornings til 9/10am and if he has drank alcohol or had a late night it’s lunch time before he is up so why would the kids live with him full time and I only visit? I don’t want to leave in an argument and have the kids witness something awful but he just isn’t going to let me go with them without it. He’s unreasonable and reactive. He shouts a lot about things when they go wrong like the kids spilling something or something not working, any minor inconvenience he will fly off the handle. I’ve taken to recording him and putting them in a hidden folder, I don’t really know why but I feel like I need those videos for if he tries to take my babies away from me? I’m so desperately unhappy in this relationship and I want out, has anyone successfully done so? If I was to voice this to my parents we could go there for a short while until I find a place to live. I just don’t know what my rights are and I feel very stuck. Please someone help and advise