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Divorce/separation

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summerxo · 09/05/2025 10:40

Me and my fiancé have been together around 7 years. We have 2 young children together and have been through quite a lot in regards to child loss (4 miscarriages and lost our son at 19 weeks)
for around a year maybe longer we just bicker constantly. Our second son was delivered early and had to be in Nicu and then he had health problems for around 6 months after. It was a very stressful time. Ever since then we just do not get a long. We have had couples counselling etc and nothing is working. It’s got to the point where we are both miserable and I feel like it’s having an affect on the kids. We aren’t intimate. I don’t have the feeling to be affectionate etc with him and I don’t know why. He works during the week and gets in around 7pm. I have the kids on my own (we don’t have a ‘village’) which I know is very common. I also work part time and weekends and sort the house out. I know this is all very common things for couples but it also causes a lot of stress too. I just feel so miserable. All of my savings went into our house and I now do not have any money saved to be able to leave and get a place with the kids if we split up but I also don’t want to stay just because of that reason if that makes sense? We haven’t said it to each other but I don’t think we would be together if it wasn’t for the kids… I just don’t want them growing up with their parents arguing etc. I just don’t know how I would be able to support the kids financially on my own. I really don’t know what to do i feel so alone and have nobody to talk to about it.

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rubyslippers · 09/05/2025 18:45

Tricky as you’re not married
is there anything in writing re the house - who has put what in and who owns it etc?
I would urge you to get legal advice - in spite of the kids, 7 years wouldn’t be classed as a long term relationship :-(

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