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Separation and sats coming up

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Em1988x · 04/05/2025 11:13

My husband has found a place to rent and is due to move out Friday. We were planning to tell the kids today, however with all the conflict over the past month, I totally put it out my mind that our son has Sats w/c 12th May. Now, I don’t know when we should tell them and what to do about him moving out. My first thought would be to say he’s working away for a week or two and then break the news after sats week . Or take a gamble and hope the news isn’t too life shattering that he’ll end up with terrible results from it 😞 The conflict we have is that he can’t stay here because I’m due to go back to the office which he doesn’t want me working at because I was seeing a guy from there (we split 2 months ago) however in his head we weren’t separated because I allowed him to continue living here, but now it’s got a point where we do need to make a clean break because I don’t want to give up my job, yes it’s just a job but to me, it’s my identity, the thought of leaving makes me sad and I’ve applied for over 40 jobs the past month and heard nothing.

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TeenToTwenties · 04/05/2025 11:16

I'd wait until after SATs if you can wing it.

People say 'SATs don't matter' but that isn't strictly true and progress at secondary school is measured from SATs and some schools will expect less from him if he comes in with lower SATs.

Unless you think your DS will be very relieved about the split of course.

DelphiniumBlue · 04/05/2025 11:26

You are adults, of course you can put it off for a week. H needs to put on his big boy pants and deal with the situation for a week.
If he's really that selfish that he can't put his own child first, then yes, he can say he's going on a work trip. Or just not be around much, working late etc?

Em1988x · 04/05/2025 12:38

Thanks all. Definitely sits better with me to wait and just endure the negativity for abit. He will have to just be grown up and put up with it for abit

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Em1988x · 04/05/2025 12:39

He keeps trying to be affectionate and win me back around which I think makes it harder 😩

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