Did you live with your partner when separated, for how long and did you date anyone else during it?

[Sweetrevenge91]

Just basically the above. And also would like to know, can you genuinely be separated when living together and still move on, as in, date other people.
I know many people live together for a while when separating due to finances and kids.

Separated from wife last summer and still living together amicably, haven't told son yet as he's doing final school exams in next few weeks. Will communicate to him and start publicly telling people in a month or so as well as starting to sell house etc.

So I'd say we're in limbo at moment and although I'd love to date, not really in right mindset yet. Not sure if that will change or not until there's a real clean break. Would also say that although we're essentially leading separate lives it's still messy with household finances and even just making arrangements, to feel truly separate

@Farside99 thanks for replying, could you see yourself getting back together? Would you be upset if she started dating someone /staying over at someone's place while still living with you? Apologies, I don't know if it was a mutual split or if it was one of you that decided to end it. I'm glad you are amicable.

I continued to live with my ex after we had decided to split. We needed to sell the house, so we lived there until exchange. It wasn't too bad because the marriage was stone dead on both sides, so there was no axe to grind on either side. I didn't think about dating again until I was living in my own place. I don't think he dated during this time, either. I wouldn't have been keen if he had brought a girlfriend back to our house, not so much jealousy, more poor taste.

Separated from LTP last autumn but still living together while house sale /purchases go through. Not ideal but no other option. No desire to date tbh (neither does he appear to have any).

But yes, we have genuinely separated - no chance of us getting back together - relationship's tone dead like another PP said.

Stone! 😄

Living with my ex (together > 20 years) for nearly a year while we sort housing, sep rooms from D-day (his instigation). He started dating immediately, stays out overnights/weekends, although had been seeing OW before "as friends". I hate it. It's a real mind fuck because everything is the same but different. I think I would have recovered faster if one of us had moved out but he refused.

I am still living with my ex, but we are very early days, not even 3 weeks and have young children. Like others we are managing to be amicable, but my resentment is growing and we still have to thrash out financial things.

And like others our relationship is dead, as ex has come out as gay and had sex with a man behind my back. If he simply came out I could have dealt with that and living together for a bit, but I hate that he has cheated and is drifting along, he doesnt even seem that sorry or think its a big deal tbh

Same here. My Ex left for the OW (kids were 14wks, 2 and 6) and split his time between the two homes until I managed to get his dad to intervene and get him out. Completely agree that it's a total mind fuck.

Emotionally we are done so no chance getting back together and I wouldn't be bothered if she started dating, in fact it would remove any guilt from my mind, or more truthfully, any sense of unease. But I don't think either of us want that. To be honest I think we might have reached this point earlier if we didn't have a ND child and a bunch of other fairly serious issues that came with that. So really the marriage is finished

I’m 3 weeks into a separation and we are still living together. Still sharing a bed and being affectionate, but pretty much all texting / calling etc has stopped. He’s started to remove pics of us from his social media and is very cold at times. He instigated the split. We have quite a complicated financial entanglement, so cannot fully split yet. It is a horrible mind fuck of a position to be in

We've been separated but living together but in seperate bedrooms for the past 19 months. I am looking to move out later this year. We sayed living together for financial reasons and for out DS. Neither of us has dated anyone else during this time and I don't have any intention to start dating until I have my own place.
I don't think I'd be upset if he started dating anyone else.

Me and my ex have continued to live in the house for 5 years, although we're moving out now. We've lived happily. I've got a new partner which hasn't caused an obvious problem. And we'll stay friends. It can be done.

I lived with my ex husband for nearly a year after separating. The house wouldn’t sell, so were in separate rooms. I did start seeing someone else, going away most weekends and on holiday. Eventually bought ex out of the house so we could move on.

I lived with ex for 18 months post separation, sleeping in separate rooms.
I attempted to date a bit but it was tough as it was a night away here and there. I didn't tell my ex as it's not something he needed to know about. I'd say the same about him. I know he was on dating apps before I was and would've been fine him going on dates.

I lived in same house as my ex for around 6 months as he wouldn’t move out until I could raise half the equity in the house to give him. We had separate rooms and he said I wasn’t allowed to date as he’d ’have me for adultery in the divorce’ 🙄. He was of course on a dating app from the very day we called it quits and met someone quite quickly, met her kids within weeks and they’re now married.

@fairydustforme isn't being affectionate messing you up mentally?

@Dillydollydingdong can I ask how has your partner dealt with you living with your ex? I'm in a similar position to your partner and am struggling with it to be honest.

Still in the house with my STBX partner. Decided to split in November so we're a good few months into the process and some days are fine, others are awful. 'Mindfuck' is definitely the word, living in limbo and playing 'happy families' (we have a 5 year old). Hoping to buy somewhere and move out in the next few months. No dating for either of us yet so far as I know.

Separated last year,waiting for house to sell, living together. Its generally fine and neither of us holding any grudges. However, we have agreed not to bring anyone back or in anyway have a new partner involved in our kidd lives for the foreseeable. Clear rules I think. For me, I don't care who/if he's seeing, just not anywhere near family home/children as their feelings are my priority.