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Access around both parents jobs

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Studz79 · 26/04/2025 14:03

Hi
this is my first time writing on here.
me and my sons dad broke up 2 years ago, our son is 10 years old. all access was around his job and days off. 1 overnight a week. Which was fine for him. Now he is asking for 3 extra nights a month which I am giving him but 2 overnights are worked around my job as if it wasn’t I would hardly see my son. My son has asked me that he doesnt want the arrangements to changed, but his dad isn’t giving him a choice. His dad has told me he isnt a baby sitter and he cant work around my job because of his job. How is this fair that he can say no when I am giving what he wants, but cos it doesn’t work for him that I got to change and miss out on my son! he’s got 3 kids by 3 different women, but only wanted them when he can have them and the other 2 mothers done it. But I love seeing my son and he wants to spend time with me.
he said I won’t win at mediation or if it goes to court to have it fair to work around both of us

OP posts:
millymollymoomoo · 26/04/2025 18:32

Well I think you need to separate it out

1 night a week then 3 extra a month Is still only 7 nights a months which isn’t a lot so I’m not sure re the comment that you’d hardly see your son

however the main point is your son saying he doesn’t want to change. In which case he should be listened to. I wouldn’t be changing it if he doesn’t want to go.

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