Single again at 28

[marie78280]

Hello everyone.
i am almost 28 , recently got out of a relationship that laste 1.5 years. I thought it was the man i would marry.
we also lived together, mind you he brought all the furnitute from his old place into our new place.
the relationship was nice in general, we enjoyed each others company a lot. But when we fought he reacted very distant, and was not able to communicate. I am financially, very stable and have a very good job that I really love, I’m always looking to take the new steps in the job field. I was earning more than him, and he had dipped. Whenever I was talking about he stepped. He wants reacting as if it was not that big of a deal, and that things would fall into place. He also did not really seem to care about his career and what steps to take to go further. Sometimes he also jokingly said that if we were to have children, it would be easier that I would keep on working, and Thia could take care of the children which I really didn’t like. .
once the discussion about a separating came along, quickly, made a date to move out.
So we did take all of the necessary steps.
when he moved out, he took all of his stuff and furniture, and went away. i bought new furniture and stayed in the apartment.
Now, almost 3 weeks later he wants us to get back together and claims he cannot live without me. I am asking myself why he even went away in the first place, if he really couldn’t handle it. I know I was the one who cut ends but I still feel like he could have fucked more for the woman he proclaim to be his dream, wife, dream, woman, and mother of his children.
Now I’m sitting here, more overwhelmed, and never all of my family and friends. Tell me that it’s not a good idea to get back together with him, I think part of the problem is also my insecurity and my fear of being too old to find love again.
i really want to start a family someday, i am afraid of regretting my choice, but i am also afraid that this type of love is not my exact definition .
is it too risky to end a relationship in your late twenties and start over again?

28? Your life has just began! Embrace it. 6 months from now you’ll be flying.

Also I was in the same position with a man at 25. He asked me to stop taking contraceptives and I knew he was not the man I wanted to have kids with. Within 6m I started a new job which meant I qualified (lawyer), the pay rise enabled me to buy a house and I met a man I’ve now married. So so glad I didnt allow that tool to knock me up.

28 is no age.
If he can mess you about like this he's not worth your time.
I met my husband at 34 and managed to have a family, you've got plenty of time.

The previous two post are great. Yes you are young, and no you do not need this loser in your life, for reasons you've very clearly told us in your post.

Build your life, and when dating again stay aware of your date's world view and their goals in life.. it's so much easier when these are aligned!

For the love of God, do not let him move back in! This cycle will just keep repeating - things will be good, then ok, then he'll suddenly move out with all his stuff, then he'll want to come back. Next thing you know you'll be 38, or 48, wondering where the time went. Enjoy your independence. When it's right, you'll know it. It shouldn't be this hard after only 18 months.

Move on! You’ve plenty of time. Live a bit of life!

Do you really want a relationship with this person?

Are you truly aligned with creating a fulfilling life together? It seems to me they just want to have no career and sit around with the kids while you work and provide all day. If they're capable of looking after a house while you're away working and you're fine with that then sure, but if not then it's not gonna work.

There are plenty of us guys out there who have careers and wanting to have families, don't settle for less than what you want.

New sofa New you…. Move on!

He is finding it hard to manage on his wages and only wants to move back because he was better off. He still can’t handle it but he wants some money in his pocket after bills so he’s pretending to want you back. You made the right decision getting rid of him and you are only young, plenty of time to find love with a decent man.