50/50

[Lis667]

Does anyone do 50/50 custody differently to a week on week off? Me and my ex live 10 mins down the road from each other, and neither of us want to do it that was, just seeing if anyone has other examples of splitting the time

Two fixed weekdays each week and then swap Friday to Sunday. So 5 nights one week, 2 nights the next.

Exactly the same here. We also live nearby and it works very well as we can easily drop off kit needed for weekend sports clubs etc. A full week apart from DC felt like too much, also this way each of us can make the necessary arrangements to work longer hours on days without DC to cover childcare on days he's home.

We do 2-2-3 (DD is 6) so each week Mon-Tues and Weds-Thurs alternate and we get alternate Fri-Sundays. It works well as we live close to each other

I think 2,2,3 works best. That way you know what the kids need for school on your days. The kids get consistency and you both get weekend time.

You Mon Tues
Him Wed, Thurs
Alt Fri, Sat Sun

How old are the kids?

Do you alternate the week days? Or stick with the same week days and alternate the weekends?

I have 2 friends who did 223 and it worked really well for them

Stick with the week days then alternate weekends

They stick with the same week days and alternate the weekend.

i don't do this, but my brother does. It was too tricky to sort out clubs, childcare, work commitments, and uniforms when the weekdays changed. They argue less about who's doing what because everyone knows what they are responsible for and who's going where and when. Also my nibbling is much more settled.

Is this arrangement classed as 50/50 for child benefit purposes?

Partially I think so, but he is a good dad and is very involved in everything to do with her

We did week on week off, but with 2 tea time nights a week with the parent who was having the week without children. It works and means you don't have to go back and forth with stuff as much/ children know where they are/if you meet a new partner, it can be easier to keep a new relationship separate.

We also live very close together and are actually quite fluid with our arrangements… have just all been on holiday together for instance, but in theory…

Monday and Tuesday - me
Wednesday and Thursday - dad
Friday, Saturday, Sunday - me

monday and Tuesday - dad
wednesday and Thursday - me
Friday, Saturday, Sunday - dad

I meant to say child maintenance not benefit oops

It was with my friends.

The fact that they did 50/50 what they did was opened a joint bank account. They both paid in a set amount every month. Then if new school trousers or shoes were needed or there was a school or activities trip to be paid it all came out that account.

You can try to agree different schedule - but you also need to think about kids, and their stability.
My two kids - teens - would hate having to move house every 2 days. Would any of us like to live like that?

If you have small kids and are just getting used to separation - try nesting. This way kids have stability and adults move around.
But after that - you’ll need to find a schedule where kids are in place for a chunk of time -
5-7 days (?) before they switch homes.

I know it seems that not seeing your kids for several days will be hard - and it is, at the beginning. And then everybody adjusts.

The 2-2-5-5 system works really well, so Parent A has Mon & Tue, Parent B has Wed & Thurs and Fri-Sun alternates. It means that the routine in the school week stays fairly stable- they always go to swimming lessons with Parent A on Monday, and do maths homework with Parent B on Wednesday etc.. They don't have to remember that their swimming costume is at Parent B's house and they need to pack it to go back to Parent A's house next week. However, it still means they get quality time on the weekends with both parents.

Have the same, works well