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Child's weekend at dads

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aggies87 · 20/04/2025 21:42

Hello.

My daughter who is 6 went to spend the day and night with her dad. We are divorced following horrible marriage. He stays currently at a hotel where he works and rents a studio apartment at the hotel. It is one room with kitchenette only. My daughter usually stays with him and there have never been any problems reported to me until yesterday. My daughter came back today and told me that daddy's girlfriend ( who in fact is a married woman with an 8 month old child) came over and stayed with them and they slept in the same bed but daddy was in the middle. She stayed with them all night long and my daughter told me she heard them kissing and laughing.

They started affaird when she was pregnant with her own husband and she is still with him. This is not my concern but my daughter reporting this incident certainly is.

I don't know what I should do in this situation. I contacted my ex who was initially defensive and asked me if I had problem with it but said it would not happen again as well as he is leaving the country permanently next month. I am very upset and unhappy that my daughter was exposed to this situation with unknown to her woman . Yes they did speak on the phone few times abd I think she met her once for a walk last year.

What do you think I should do and should I report it somewhere?

My daughter also asked me why this woman has two boyfriends. Please any advise given will be appreciated. Thank you

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DorothyStorm · 20/04/2025 21:44

Dont send her again and wait him out if he is leaving the country. Trash taking itself out.

BookArt55 · 21/04/2025 09:54

What's the plan for when he leaves the country?
Do you have a court order in place?

Walkerzoo · 21/04/2025 09:58

What age, which country? Is he on BC?

Ask for something on passport (he can apply without your knowledge) but he could try and take child.

Ring MASH /social services. Don't ask too many questions but note exactly what has been said so far

I would do as much without telling him as he may change his mind about going abroad and about involvement with child.

aggies87 · 21/04/2025 10:39

BookArt55 · 21/04/2025 09:54

What's the plan for when he leaves the country?
Do you have a court order in place?

We don't have court order. Children are with me that was mutual agreement. He only takes them every two weeks for 2 night ( older daughter 15 stays only 1 night)

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aggies87 · 21/04/2025 10:41

Walkerzoo · 21/04/2025 09:58

What age, which country? Is he on BC?

Ask for something on passport (he can apply without your knowledge) but he could try and take child.

Ring MASH /social services. Don't ask too many questions but note exactly what has been said so far

I would do as much without telling him as he may change his mind about going abroad and about involvement with child.

Yes I don't want him to stay i prefer for him to leave the country to be honest.

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aggies87 · 21/04/2025 10:42

Walkerzoo · 21/04/2025 09:58

What age, which country? Is he on BC?

Ask for something on passport (he can apply without your knowledge) but he could try and take child.

Ring MASH /social services. Don't ask too many questions but note exactly what has been said so far

I would do as much without telling him as he may change his mind about going abroad and about involvement with child.

Shall I call mash and tell them about the incident my daughter told me about?

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BookArt55 · 21/04/2025 11:55

I would report to MASH, explain the situation that he is leaving the country, but think you need to flag this in case there are future issues.
But I wouldn't say anything to him, let him go. Then if/when he chooses to return and wants the kids overnight you could potentially say no if contact has been limited/non existent.
Such a difficult situation.

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