Consent Order

[Becky1905]

Hi

i have a hearing at court at the end of May as I have requested the courts to set aside our consent order.
the reason I have requested this is because during the divorce I was severely depressed and in a very bad way, my ex husband used this and blackmailed me into agreeing to the terms, he is paid £25k more a year and has gained £140k from the house and I gained £94k. He has now moved in his girlfriend as well. He has also hidden additional income of £20k a year.
what can I expect from the first hearing?
I’m so anxious. We have two children and do 50:50. I was left with all our marital debts and without anything from old house or marriage other than my own clothes and belongings etc.

I am swarming in debt and it’s making me so stressed out.

You can expect nothing to change id say

from the information you’ve posted I don’t see anything changing

So

what assets were materially misstated or not declared that would have made a material change to the outcome?

the earning differential isn’t big enough (imo)
his gf moving in won’t change the outcome.

what debts did you end up taking?

you say you got nothing from old house or marriage but got 40% split of equity ?

@millymollymoomoo
so £40k a year difference is not enough for him to have a more significant share of the house?
I didn’t mean I got nothing from the marriage I meant material things such as home items etc. yes I had the equity from the house. He’s kept all of the furniture furnishings and everything. I have had to furnish and decorate a 3 bedroom house for me and two children. As well as purchase a car as he kept the car also when he had a van that he uses.
He has threatened to do several things if I didn’t agree and stated ‘I’ll ruin my children’s emotional wellbeing’ if I didn’t. I have these on messages. He is also threatening to make a claim on universal credits which we agreed I would claim to ensure I can provide for the children and got my house on this basis.
The debts were living expenses prior to separation. After we separated I unfortunately lost my job which meant I had no income, which resulted in me using debts to cover living costs as I had no income to pay for us due to me living in the family home still and the mortgage being joint. This was for about 4 months.

if it’s sealed and signed iy can’t just be changed because you don’t like the outcome.

you have to demonstrate that there were material misstatements that had they been known would have changed the outcome, and based on the limited info here info t see that

what does your solicitor say ?

Did the court approve the consent order?

The disparity in income is not large and the fact he has moved his girlfriend is is irrelevant legally.

What do you mean by he has hained 140k from house to your 94k? Was house sold and equity not shared equally?

This article is helpful.

https://www.sharpfamilylaw.com/can-i-change-my-consent-order/

The debts are yours not his. I would not lose money on this. Just focus on building a new life for yourself. Focus on a new job and your mental health. He is not responsible for your finacial stability. I'm guessing the diffrence in the split was down to a deposit he paid. Don't waste money time and mental energy on this.