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Divorce advice on horrid SIl and children’s safety

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Rainyeaster · 15/04/2025 22:12

Please help. I am seriously considering leaving my husband. He is never home, never supportive and I am the only bread winner. I have fallen out of love with him and i think I did so three years ago when I found out he had been messaging other women, when I was at a very vulnerable stage in my life. The only thing is I am terrified of the effect it will have on the children. I know full well that husband would only move back in with his parents and older sister if we divorced. I have major, major issues with his sister (my SIL) and I am scared that every time the children would go to their dad’s (his parents house) she will be there. She has previously physically assaulted my husband, is violent, aggressive and just a terrible person. I do not want this woman to be influencing my children in any way, which is no doubt what will happen. At least now if I remain married to him I can keep them safe from her but I am deeply un-happy. Any advice? Thank you.

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Redfloralduvet · 16/04/2025 03:20

Is he going to have a bedroom for them there? Doesn't sound like it? So no overnights then? If he's not having them overnight he can take them elsewhere and not his parents home when he has them.

All he wants is to chase other women. Is he really going to want contact?

I'd not let him see DC if you think he can't keep them safe. Let him take you to court over it. If nothing else it'll delay the time until he has contact.

How old are DC? Old enough for the court to take their wishes into account?

Unexpectedlysinglemum · 16/04/2025 12:24

Just say no contact at their house and you won't allow them to go if he won't agree that in writing first - he can take
You to court if he disappeared and cafcass can assess how safe that home is

Unexpectedlysinglemum · 16/04/2025 12:25

Ps there's no guarantee he'll leave the family home if you tell him you're breaking up he has just as much right to live there as you do

Redfloralduvet · 16/04/2025 17:35

Depends who owns the family home. If its owned by a landlord and he isn't the tenant then in the event of a breakup he won't have many rights to stay.

You need to see a solicitor about getting your ducks in a row OP.

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