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Ex used alias to marry me..

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Freedomfighter87 · 04/04/2025 14:57

I left my abusive husband back in January, and it’s just today come to light that my husband has used an alias the entire 27 years I have known him. He married me using his alias name and I have taken the alias name as my surname. Our child also has this alias as their surname. The only reason I have found out is that it has shown up in relation to a safeguarding report Cafcass have written. Any thoughts on if my marriage is even legal? I’m aware I will likely to need proper legal advice but was just wondering if anybody else has had something similar .

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Suns1nE · 04/04/2025 16:43

My father changed his name after his first marriage so his kids by first wife are X and then when he married my mum he was Y (same name I have).

Sounds like he changed his name because of previous police dealings. My ex did that as he didn’t want people to know it was him.

MyUniqueHalloweenCat · 04/04/2025 16:44

Freedomfighter87 · 04/04/2025 15:58

The report states that he is known to the police by the name X with the alias of Y. The report also revealed he had been to prison for ABH on his baby, I’m guessing he started using a new name once released and shortly before he met me. I moved away to uni at 18 and he came with me (I know now how wrong this was), so I never really met his old friends and he didn’t speak to his family. Until this report I had no idea he had a child. It’s a lot to take in and I’ve already book some therapy sessions. At least a lot of missing pieces are now making sense to me!

That’s why then - he wanted a fresh start with a young woman. Thank goodness you got away from him.

intothewoad · 04/04/2025 16:50

I would get this moved to legal but I would say yes you are married - you went through the ceremony and the registrant accepted his identity documents and issued the marriage certificate….unless of course, he was already married and had failed to get a divorce in which case he has committed bigamy. Where that leaves you I’m not sure but I presume you will be trying to settle financial affairs and divorcing him so your solicitor should be helping you with any implications.

selffellatingouroborosofhate · 04/04/2025 16:58

Freedomfighter87 · 04/04/2025 15:58

The report states that he is known to the police by the name X with the alias of Y. The report also revealed he had been to prison for ABH on his baby, I’m guessing he started using a new name once released and shortly before he met me. I moved away to uni at 18 and he came with me (I know now how wrong this was), so I never really met his old friends and he didn’t speak to his family. Until this report I had no idea he had a child. It’s a lot to take in and I’ve already book some therapy sessions. At least a lot of missing pieces are now making sense to me!

The report also revealed he had been to prison for ABH on his baby,

That's one hell of a dripfeed.

You need legal advice, from an actual solicitor.

RawBloomers · 04/04/2025 17:01

OP, nothing you’ve written suggests that the marriage isn’t legal.

It must be a huge shock to find all this out. But the different name is unlikely to have any legal repercussions for you. If he used that name for years, that was his name.

He may have changed his name via a statutory declaration, or a deed poll, or just by use. Those would all be legal and police would record any name they know of that he has used at any point as an “alias”. Police use the term “alias” for any other names a person uses, it doesn’t make the names dodgy.

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