Pickled mind

[2000trees]

Hi I am so pickled , my husband decided he wanted to separate 4 years ago, but he wouldn’t move out , he found another relationship, so I moved out with my child . Now he wants us back together as a family, the relationship didn’t work out for him. My child loves us being together as a family when we have days out etc ; and asks me why we dont live at home . I am so torn , I still have feelings for him , and would love my family back together but he has hurt me so badly , we were together 15 year it was happy until he decided he no longer wanted me ; at this point it was emotionally abusive but he promises me he has changed and realised what he lost and it’s seems genuine , but I can’t get over the hurt and I feel like I am preventing myself from having a happy life with him as I can’t go back

And how long until he finds the next one, and you move out again?

You’re his plan b op

dont do it. You are worth so much more are you divorced? If not do it and close this chapter of your life off for good

Nope! You are no one’s back up or Plan B, op. He will do it again.

People do make mistakes, I mean this is as big as it gets but they do realise what they had/missed and I have known someone who split for 5 years, got back together and some 15 years later are blissfully happy.

They only way that can happen is if you both are honest as to why it broke down and how that wont happen again. Stats are probably against you, he probably will move on again but its not a given