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Divorce/separation

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Time to separate/ can I afford it

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Runningmom6 · 30/03/2025 06:59

Please can you tell me I will be ok. I haven't said anything to my Husband yet, but I think it's time we separate. But I'm worried sick I won't afford it, I have a 5 year old son and I work 32 hours a week. Is there anyone there who is or has been in a similar situation and can live. Why are we separating - I don't want to have sex anymore with my husband, I just do it like once a month or less to get.it over with, I'm going to be 40 in January and I don't want to live my next 40 years like this. My husband is very different to me and I think when we got together I thought oh he's different but maybe that's a good thing, he had to security, got a house, got married did what I thought everyone wants in life. I love my son dearly and he is my priority, I love it when it's just me and him. My husband works away 2 nights a week and I can't wait till he goes.
A year ago I was almost 10 stone heavier and unhappy, fast forward to now and yes I'm so much slimmer and healthier so that makes me happier but deep down I'm still not happy. The weight loss did not fix how I felt sexually with him. I feel we are just friends living together, and I don't even think seeking therapy would help as I just don't want to even try have sex with him tbh, am I being selfish by thinking that we need to separate, break up a family unit, I feel so bad that this will happen for my son. Anyway any advice /thoughts/make me feel better etc are welcome. Sorry it's soong but I feel so alone.

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OudAndRose · 30/03/2025 07:23

Were you attracted to him when you first got together / married him?

amiadoormat · 30/03/2025 07:31

Have you actually spoken to him? Sounds like this is only to do with having sex once a month ….and you want to break your family up over that? From someone who is a single parent if there is no abuse etc and your just a bit bored then staying together is best for your child.

Runningmom6 · 31/03/2025 07:05

I wouldn't say overly sexually, and now it's getting worse, I don't even want him touching me really now, we've just come back from Barcelona as I thought that might re kindle things but it was the opposite

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