50/50 custody but dad has them on tent beds

[ByRareAquaOtter]

So looking for advise, I agreed on 50/50 with my ex to save stress and heart ache for the kids, but since then my ex keeps throwing his weight around and demanding what he wants when he wants them and I have little choice. I’m thinking of taking him to court as he works full time and lets his mum doing most of the pick up drop offs and i had the kids with him not his mum so feel if I’m available and he isn’t I should be doing it. There is also the fact that he lives in a 1 bed flat and he has the bedroom while my 2 kids sleep on tent beds in the frontroom/kitchen and feel this is unsustainable especially for my oldest as she’s soon 10 and getting of an age where she needs her own space. I’d like advice on if I take him to court are my concerns valid or will they grant him the 50/50

I have a daughter your age and no would I be allowing that. Why would you “agree to save stress and heartache for the kids” sounds like that decision is going to cause exactly what you wanted to try and avoid. I won’t allow any overnights with my ex where my children don’t have their own proper beds and some semblance of privacy for the girls

2 separate issues his mum doing pickups and drop offs is normal for any working parent needed wrap around care
as for sleeping are the kids same sex
he needs to get a zip link bed they have his bedroom and he sleeps in the lounge

the 1st ok isn’t an issue and there’s a solution to the 2nd do if you drag it through court there’s not a lot of weight to your argument

These men are just awful . So selfish. I'm sure he got 50/50 to avoid maintenance 💔

I think it's worth taking him to court. If he can't house the children adequately he can't have them 50% of the time. They need a bedroom (possibly 2 depending on their sex/age) with proper beds. He can't just demand 50% and then not provide the basics for them.

Agree with @rwalker

its perfectly normal to use childminders/friends/.family/wrap around care so this is not a valid concern the courts would look at. Are you also not working full time ?

the sleeping arrangements ate however not acceptable

importantly, what do your children want ?