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How do I do this?

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nervouslycertain · 23/03/2025 16:26

Haven't used mumsnet in so long I've forgotten my old account details, but I'm hoping for some mumsnet wisdom and support as I prepare to end my deeply unhappy marriage.

I have been dithering I suppose, spent the last 3 years so ground down and depressed that I haven't had the energy or headspace to go through with it. I've asked him to move out and he says the right things but doesn't do it.
We rent so no issue who stays, just made sense for me to as no public transport and he doesn't drive.

Tomorrow I will start house hunting for me and our 2 dc. My fears aren't really practical as I'm pretty self sufficient that way.

But what do I do? Over the years I've lost all my friends, I don't even have anyone left in real life to tell that it's over.

How do I rebuild a life that feels fulfilling in my late 40s? I solo work so don't even have colleagues (although I am job hunting)

Has anyone left and had literally nobody? How did you make friends?

Sorry if this post is vague in a way, I guess I'm just looking for a place to be able to talk about it as I go through the process

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FinallyHere · 23/03/2025 20:52

I’m sorry you are going through this. It will start getting better and bettef

would you consider getting I. Touch with the people you used to know. Jo need to tell them what you have been though, just ask them how they are doing.

Hope it goes well, all the best xx

nervouslycertain · 23/03/2025 23:21

Thank you, I hope it gets better. I'm scared of being lonely, even though I'm lonely now.
I just don't do anything, and I want to. I want to enjoy my life, but years of living with someone so miserable and draining has exhausted me.
I think I'm just scared of the unknown really.

He's also very controlling which I think has eroded my confidence, I know I'm a capable person but I no longer feel capable - if that makes sense

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