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Any other options for buying an ex out?

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Properbobbins · 23/03/2025 08:48

Looking to buy exDH out of the family home in the next 2 years or so when the current fixed rate on the mortgage ends. 50:50 split of the equity would be about £75k each, exDH has said he would be happy with £50k lump sum that he can put towards somewhere else.
My options seem to be either give him £50k cash - I don’t have this and won’t have this or anything near it in 2 years. Or take out additional borrowing on the mortgage when the fixed rate ends to give him the money that way. This looks very unlikely on my current earnings when I’ve looked at mortgage calculators. I will try to increase my earnings and clear down some existing debt to give myself the best chance but as it’s only 2 years away I’m slightly limited in how much difference I can really make.
Other than selling (which I’m desperately trying to avoid as I would need to move out of area for something I can afford and both DC will still be at high school) are there any other options for me? Thanks

OP posts:
anonymousanonymouse · 23/03/2025 13:07

Can you delay until the youngest child reaches 18?

millymollymoomoo · 23/03/2025 15:06

Op you’ll need to give him his share and take over all the mortgage - can you do that and have you passed affordability checks with the lender?

gave you had a financial settlement which awards you both 50%? Are there any other assets that could be traded?

how old are the children? If near gcse stage you might be in a position to delay sale until they are completed to avoid disruption?

grumpyoldeyeore · 23/03/2025 18:13

If £50k is a good deal for you then I would be trying to find £50k while its on table. Have you tried extending the term eg to max retirement age when using mortgage calculator. If things improve you can then overpay. If you get benefits as well as earnings some banks will include these. Would family help? Have you tried a mortgage broker?

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