Children's clothing and school uniform

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Ex has repeatedly kept the clothes that I send the children in. So I bought two outfits for both children. He has now kept those and sends them back in clothes that no longer fit from over a year ago when we last lived at the house. This week I sent our youngest back in the same trousers because I can't keep sending clothes. These trousers were a bit short but fit everywhere else (the best fitting he has sent her back in).
It was the first time of taking our eldest to school, it was normal school uniform day the morning I had the kids, the next day was pe day. Ex had no uniform, sent me awful messages blaming me for not sending the uniform, sent our child to school in the same uniform I sent him in (I dropped to school the correct uniform so that our child was okay).

So ex is saying that i should buy all clothes and uniform for the kids for both houses, is this correct?
He pays full maintenance, but now overnights are 1-2 a week category, court ordered, i will now contact CMS for it to be adjusted.
He is now saying that actually this is reversed. I steal the clothes he supplies, I send them back in too small clothes (despite me raising it through a co parenting app a couple of times before this week).

Any suggestions on how to manage uniform? And normal clothes? And then eventually the court is likely to decide dad will have the kids on an extracurricular club where the outfit is over £100... I can't afford to buy two. I can't afford more uniform than I currently have, I wash it ready for the next day it is needed.

Really struggling financially due to barrister and solicitor bills for the family courts. I live with a family member who has been extremely understanding and supportive so I don't pay rent due to my legal fees, but this won't last forever.

I feel so petty saying that I don't want to just send clothing with the kids, but the kids rarely wear it back so I'll end up with nothing... but at the same time overnights at the weekend have been happening for a few months and I've never sent pyjamas, etc.

Tell them to bring it back themselves? If they are in school they are old enough to do that

They are 2 and 6. The 6 year old struggles to disagree with his dad. Dad says the clothes belong at this house. Children are very confused.

Id continue to do what you are doing. Communicate only the app. Send nothing. State on the app what you've sent them in. Tell everyone he knows what a cunt he is.

After this happening repeatedly I eventually started sending mine in the outfit they came home wearing - I'd wash it and put it to one side for the next visit. I stoped caring that it was too stained/small/whatever. I told the kids that way daddy can keep track of the stuff he gets you 🥴
He never took to school but if that happens I'd explain to teacher and leave a spare uniform in school.

And no, you don't need to send anything other than what they are wearing the day they go ....his CMS will be adjusted to reduce the days and that money should pay for stuff at his.

My ex used to accuse me of keeping the clothes she sent my son over in - as if a single man with no other children would not notice children's clothing around the house

In the end I brought clothes he would change into before he left and repeated the process when he was dropped off

I suggest that your ex and my ex ought to go on a date

This made me laugh! Can you imagine the plotting the two would do against us 🤣 ex is currently in an argument with himself on the parenting app (that i am not responding to) about 1 hair tie, and a pair of socks. No joke.
Yes I have them, I will return them at next handover, I think he can survive without them. But shows how petty the situation is. Exhausting. So i feel for you!