Living together...

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Divorce applied for and now is the cooling-off period til the summer and then the house will go on the market. Hoping everything is finalised (consent order inc, house sale, final order) by the end of the year.

But how does one cope with having to share a property in the meantime? No space to grieve or just be, just sat here waiting for Christmas.

Is there anyone you can stay with for a while in the meantime? Even a few weeks away here and there would give you some blessed relief.
Also Google the grey rock technique.

It will be had but try to go out as much as possible. Also you have to come to terms with it and set your mind that this is over. Engage your mind with future plans. Good luck.

Unfortunately, its the reality and you just need to live through it. Create routines and busy yourself with hobbies and/or friends.
Think about the future. Prepare paperwork for next stage of divorce and for after.
Time does lass quickly. I lived through contentious divorce for almost 2 years only a few years ago. Now - its in the past and I barely remember how it was - possibly defence mechanism.

If he gets aggressive - report to police.

Thank you @MuckFusk @JKM66

Family are a few hours away and have been making plans each month to travel down for weekends. I’ll think about other family I can visit.

grey rock yes, and been reading about Let Them theory.

it’s the planning as well, trying to work out timelines and when to market, when to look for rental, is it possible to sell one house and buy two separate onward purchases. So complicated.

And then there is the heartache, anger, sadness. Just would rather go through that journey alone but can’t due to finances (and the solicitor said not to leave).

@jsku thank you for the suggestions, and yes good idea regarding paperwork.

Aggression not an issue. Really is quite amicable and hoping to get the consent order done without too much cost, I can read up about that in the coming weeks and gather what is required.

Received an email from solicitor regarding wills and getting one set up. Currently don't have one and its been a bone of contention for a long time. Joint owners so house would pass to me/him but solicitor wants joint ownership severed and change to tenants in common, so if in the event something happened during the divorce, my children from a previous marriage would receive my share of the property. Will research online about wills too.