I finally pressed the button

[trailblazer42]

384 days since he stormed out, returned and the last incident of stonewalling started
383 days since I moved out of our bed
352 days since I wrote a letter telling him I wanted a separation then was convinced outherwise
223 days since I told him I wanted a divorce and then was convinced otherwise
135 days since I packed up my things and moved out

£1530 of counselling

Finally braved pressing the button.

Response received: "That's hideous, and your behaviour is not reasonable or sound. I'm devastated for you, me and us all."

Well done on making the move. Sounds like you have given it your best shot, but it’s time to split properly. Good luck going forward (it’s worth it).

Well let's be fair.. you've given it a good try!! Time to focus on yourself and start a new chapter in your life.

What do you mean by press the button? Have you actually filed online?

I’m a little confused too. Who did you receive the response from? To what?

by “pressing the button” what have you sent/done?

it sound like you’ve done the right thing, whatever it was.

Sorry, yes I’ve submitted the divorce application and that was the response from my husband on the ‘news’.

I am sure you have sound reasons for taking this step.
But he is allowed to feel what he feels.
Now that you are certain this is the right thing you just have to plough on and not allow his distress to deflect you from your chosen course of action

You must have been convinced he would never change or that things won't get better

He can be devastated all he wants. Sounds like a total tw*t to me. I wish you all the very best OP.

Yes, he is allowed his feelings. Unfortunately he won’t allow me to have my own feelings and is happier to tell me and everyone else that I’m mentally unstable than accept that I might feel differently to him. I’ve listened to that voice too much.

Then you must not listen to it any more and judt continue with the course of action you have chosen.

Christ from that response it sounds like you've done the right thing. Sorry you're going through this op. You seem to have given it a good try too.

Congratulations OP. This is the first step to peace and freedom

Congratulations op. I have around 365 days before I press the button. I absolutely know it is the right thing to do - I'm just waiting for a couple of things to fall into place this year. It feels a lonely wait and I can't wait to be in your position for the chance of peace and freedom. And yes, he has also alluded that my mind is unstable and will be more than happy to place the blame with me. Doesn't matter. It's no way to live.