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Coping with all the questions..

5 replies

ChipolataSandwich · 01/03/2025 21:42

Amicably separated. Very few people accept that I am fine and I don’t need to talk about it.

Most of my friends want to mine me for information that either doesn’t exist or I don’t want to give them. Some questions are very intrusive. Can’t wrap my head around the NEED to know whether I’m going to have other relationships in the future when my marriage has only just ended, for example.

These are all people who are not usually like this. Is there a morbid curiosity that means people need to perform an autopsy on a broken marriage? This is having more of an impact on my mental health than anything else right now. I need a social life, but not one where my marriage is all people want to talk about.

I need some stock phrases that aren’t too blunt. “STBXH and I have talked it all out. I want to focus on the future” or similar isn’t working as the lines of questioning just carry on. I wish it felt like it came from a good place. But it just feels that above all else they just want to KNOW.

OP posts:
Deedeesharpwhatkindoflady · 02/03/2025 02:10

It's not something I want to talk about so let's just leave it at that.
Could it be these friends are looking for salacious details rather than from a concerned for a friend angle?

Deedeesharpwhatkindoflady · 02/03/2025 02:12

Apologies I see you didn't want blunt replies to give.
Hope you find something that you're comfortable with and it puts an end to being quizzed.

MissedItByThisMuch · 02/03/2025 02:14

If subtle isn’t working there’s nothing wrong with being blunt. “I’d rather not talk about my marriage, can we change the subject”.

4Candle · 02/03/2025 07:59

‘Tell me which one cheated?’ ‘Tell me the juicy details’ Meh, your life, and 2 people know what happened and why. Your friends are there to support you with what you need, simple.

abnerbrownsdressinggown · 02/03/2025 08:19

I don’t see anything wrong with being blunt either. Turn round the phrase you had slightly to something like, ‘Sorry, I’m all talked out about this right now’ and have another topic of conversation at hand to bring up and leave it at that.

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