Good morning.
I recently got divorced after years of abusive marriage. Since he moved out things have calmed down and he is not bothering me currently and seeing children every 2 weekends and sticking to agreement.
He started paying CMS in January and he informed me yesterday that he decided to move abroad. Abroad is South Africa and maybe surrounding countries by Indian ocean as he found job in a hotel chain.
Now of course my CMS will be greatly affected but this is not my concern right now . He wants our children to visit him for 3 weeks during summer to wherever he might be. I believe different locations for hotels is a lie as I only found one hotel in SA for this chain. He claimed there are hotels is SA Thailand Maledives and Seychels as well as Mauritius. The name he provided for the hotel shows only hotels in South Africa. He suggested minor service for the flights so our girls can fly there without me to see him. The problem is it is a long flight and I have two children ages nearly 6 and 15. The 16 year old is fine but the 6 years old is very fragile. She has motion sickness even on the plane. She has anxiety when travelling. We travelled to Spain last week and she was vomiting all day due to stress and I was with her. There is also separation anxiety from me. I don't know how she could handle such a long flight without me with some stranger looking after her. Also I'm concerned about their safety in south africa. I don't want them to stop seeing their father but this is a bit extreme. Is there anything I can do to stop this from happening? I feel extremely uneasy with all of this and it gives me severe anxiety. I would appreciate your opinions. Thank you.