How much info does your ex see during divorce?

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Currently getting all my financial paperwork in order to get an agreement in place but it's left me wondering. I know he'll be able to see how much I earn, how much is in my pension and in my accounts but I was wondering will he be able to see the bank statements I provide and all the expenditures on it as that feels really intrusive?

I know it won't make a difference either way and I'll be totally transparent but I just wanted to be prepared with what to expect from the process.

I’m sorry to say that in my case, I have to provide every bank statement. So my ex can see everything I spend on. (I could do the same of course if the stupid dickhead ever actually provided his paperwork)

Don't know if it's different in Scotland but I didn't have to provide anything.
OH organised the whole divorce. I didn't do anything.

It depends on what Forms how you go about negotiating the agreement, that also determines what forms you will be submitting.
In the most contended situation where you end up in Court with the Judge deciding the financial agreement - you submit all bank statements and other financial documentation.
If you reach the agreement outside of court and just need Judge to approve it - I think you don't need to submit quite as much paperwork.

So - it depends.

6 months of bank statements. Made for interesting reading!

I had to provide 12 months of everything. Mine were boring, his were interesting!

I’m also a bit stressed about him trawling through mine which I have just submitted. I have no desire or interest to even look at his, I dread to think what will be uncovered :(

Mine was slightly easier I think because the kids were grown up and I wasn't contesting anything. I'd had enough of being a servant so called time and he was happy to go along with it as he was convinced I was having an affair (I wasn't)

So my main worry is that I have put our child in nursery and he isn't aware of that at present. Not that he's asked. He doesn't have any contact with our child as he's currently being investigated for offences against children but until that's concluded (which could take years) he still technically has parental responsibility and could remove my child from nursery if he landed and they couldn't refuse him. We're no longer open with SS because they're satisfied I'm safeguarding adequately and I've asked the Sw to inform the nursery of what's going on so they know my son can't be released to his dad but ultimately their hands are crossed. I presume I can't redact anything so he won't know the name of the nursery our son goes to if he's going to see the nursery payments on my bank statements?

If he can't have contact with the child then the nursery should not allow him to collect. If you can get that in writing from SS, there will still be a file on your child. If not then speak to your lawyer about getting a court order.

You may even be able to get details of the nursery redacted from Bank Statements just the tag "nursery costs".
If he is not allowed contact with the child then the lawyers may need to be careful to hide details about your location/the child.
Does he have an order preventing him approaching you? Could you get this extended to include an area around the nursery.

No orders in place, at the moment he's not allowed unsupervised contact. I've said no to contact at all because I don't know the full extent of his offending not that I think it would make a difference to my mind. But because its not proven yet via the criminal investigation ss won't take any further action as they've no proof even though he's admitted it to me. So now it's just down to me to keep saying no to contact and the sw has told the nursery what is happening but won't tell them he can't collect because there's no legal grounds. Solicitor seems really good but is saying no point seeking an order since he's not asking for contact at the moment it might backfire. So nursery are saying legally they can't deny him but they can delay him until I can get there so he can be released to me instead but that's obviously increasing the risk of confrontation in front of our child.

Twelve months from every account held. They absolutely will go through every line. Your solicitor will do the same, that’s what you are paying them for.