Need advice

[Kas99]

Hi

I need some advice regarding how to end my marriage. A few days ago I found out my husband of 17 years (partner of 27 )has been cheating on me for the last 3 years. With multiple men. Oh he is also a cross dresser. I found evidence of him meeting a man. He lied and said it was only a kiss as he was curious, he didn't like it and that was it. I got suspicious and started investigating turns out he has been lieing and cheating on me for years. The marriage has been far from perfect and I have been staying together for the kids. (3 all in primary school) but this is the final of many nails in the coffin.
He doesn't yet know I know what he has been up to. He thinks I believe him.

My question is how do I handle this so the kids are least affected. Nobody I know is divorced and I live in a rural farming community where no one is divorced. How does the process work. Also if anyone has any positive examples of getting divorced and the kids being OK I would love to hear them as life seems pretty grim at the moment.

Thanks

I am no divorce expert but I am more than sure your kids will be better with you happy than living a sad, lonely lie. Hugs and more hugs - you must be feeling … shock? total disbelief? betrayal? angry and ready to break something? I don’t know. Rural community or city flat, matters of the heart have a lot in common. Don’t feel you need to confide in anyone, but do get as much support as you can find. You keep a very close eye on your children. And get therapy a few months from now, when the shock wears off.

Have a look at recent threads -
eg

www.mumsnet.com/talk/divorce_separation/5098644-timeline