Success Stories

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I haven't even started the divorce process but I'm already grieving my marriage. I honestly must have felt all the stages of grief in the last few days and it's a hell of a rollercoaster. It's going to be a long journey; divorce, selling the house, buying a place... And worst of all, not seeing my son a couple of times a week. I am so devastated and stressed I cannot stop crying most of the time. I'm worried about my son and the affect this will have on him, I worry about the stress to come, and the fact it's going to long, long months. It's a long time to feel depressed. Any success stories out there, where in the end everything was okay? I haven't told my friends yet, but one. I feel so ashamed. I can't explain it. They're all on different paths, building their lives, buying houses, having babies. I know they'd be nothing but supportive but pity is the last thing I need.

Tell your friends, pity might come into it, but also fury, rage, humour and solidarity.
It is a long journey, but it is almost always worth it.

Divorce is one of the top three worst life events for a good reason.

Please open up to friends, you will need their support and you won’t feel so alone.

It doesn’t feel like pity from true friends, just like love and sympathy.

Once I opened up to friends I was surprised at how many of them were going through their own problems in their relationships.

I am two years down the road after divorce. I rent a nice house and exdh has a nice house too. Kids spend eow with him and half of holidays. Me and ex both have new partners we are happy with and kids like them too. Me and ex are civil. It took a lot of work and tears to get here.

Thanks everyone. I'll share the bad news when I'm ready - it's also the fear of making it official, and therefore definite. I'm still stupidly hoping things will turn around, though I know deep down they won't, and probably shouldn't either.

Don’t share the news until you have actually talked to your stbx and started the split. That is best done when you are ready for one of you to move out. I was stuck in the house with XH for a few days and it was disastrous.

once I told people, I started getting stories that friends and family had kept to themselves. Many of them had tried to be polite, but had secretly disliked XH because of his behavior. It really helped me transition from grief to anger, despite being the one who instigated the split. I didn’t even know everything he had done.