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Help, trapped in a marriage I hate

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Depressedparent · 16/02/2025 21:11

Hello , I need some advice , I have a home that I live in with my two children and my husband it’s mine , my husband drinks and takes drugs he is a very good con artist steals from me and my family as well as his own you name it he’s done it he’s a vile piece of work and I can’t stand him , I need him out of my life and my children’s lives , he is verbally abusive to me and then some , the only thing is with all my bills paid I’m left with £150 a month to raise to children on and the covers fuel and food for one week ! I know when I break away he wouldn’t help me he can barely hold down a job , I don’t think I can keep playing pretend anymore I’ve tried a few times to kick him out but I always end up taking him back because he throws money at me , what do I do I want the best life for my children and financially I can’t do that alone I’m at breaking point I’m so miserable and I don’t deserve half of the rubbish he gives me I am a good woman with good morals !! And I can’t take much more my self worth has gone along with the hope of a decent normal life

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Flipslop · 16/02/2025 21:48

Have you looked at what you’d get with universal credit on a single income?
also, he will have to pay via CSA
can you downsize your home to release a bit of equity?
you will honestly find a way xx

Depressedparent · 16/02/2025 21:56

I get uc already and it’s not much more I would go to Csa but he would quit work so I doubt I would get much if anything if he’s not working I’m thinking of everything I’d work evenings but I have no one to look after my babies I have not much support out there the house is council and I have a two bed so can’t go any smaller I don’t see a way out honestly I’m trapped xx

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LittleGreenDragons · 16/02/2025 23:03

Next time he takes drugs can you call the police? Same with drug or drunk driving.

Get counselling so next time you throw him out you will be strong enough not to let him back in.

Go to Citizens Advice and ask them to see if you are eligible for any other benefits or for them to see where you can reasonably cut costs and/or help to prevent debt.

Contact Women's Aid for support.

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