So my husband refuses to separate even though it is an awful environment and so toxic. I have three children and work part time. There is also drug abuse on his part and he is behaving like he has relapsed. I cannot do it anymore. He will walk into a room and start an argument over anything (red flag for relapse). Everything is my fault including why he relapses. He is a bully. How do I Greywell him? Is that the right term? How do I get my ducks in a row? I don't have any savings and have a really poor credit score. I know this is going to be messy. He is desperate to keep the house and I wonder if that is the only reason he stays and because he doesn't want the world to know he has failed. He says I manipulate situations (his favourite word) but he just doesn't see that things are fine when he is clean. When he is clean things are really good but in the midst of a relapse you cannot even say hello without him having a breakdown at you. How do I navigate and put my children first during this period before I leave. I want to make sure I do what is best long term for me and my children.