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Worried about living conditions

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FlyingontheGround · 10/02/2025 10:19

I separated from my DH last year after 3 years of him dropping out and not supporting himself or our children. He’s in a mess financially but is, to be fair, taking steps to get himself a more stable income. He was living with family and me and the kids are in our rented house - we were never able
to buy a house when we were together owing to him not being able to manage his finances. He has just taken a private tenancy in an area that’s a bit dodgy, I accept I have no control over this and that the two nights a month the kids are with him, he’ll want them to stay there. However the condition of the house is extremely poor and he has very little furniture - no beds or sofa. I don’t think I can help
any more than I am, I’m not taking any maintenance from him and I’m paying for his car and insurance so he can go to work and see the kids but I‘m not happy about the kids staying in those conditions, is there anything I can do?

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Iamallowedtodisagreewithyou · 10/02/2025 10:40

It's not really clear what you're asking.

"Is there anything I can do "

About what?

FlyingontheGround · 10/02/2025 13:00

Story, I see it’s not very clear, I mean is there anything I can do to stop him from having our kids overnight in his house which at the moment I think is unsuitable.

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cheezncrackers · 10/02/2025 13:04

I would tell him that he can't have them to stay until he has beds for them to sleep in and some furniture. Let him take you to court, if he wants to argue about it, but I don't think any judge in the land would insist that DC stay in a house that has no furniture and nowhere for the DC to sleep!

Edited to say: there are charities that help people on low incomes to get furniture and appliances for their homes. He must get clean, new stuff though, not anything used that might be dirty or infested with fleas.

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