Hi everyone
bit of a long one, but please read as I am needing a bit of advice!
long story short, I’ve been married to Hubby for 12 years and we have separated as we have been living like brother and sister for the last 7 years or so. Very amicable, beautiful 12 year old daughter who has taken to all of this very well considering the situation.
he earns a considerable income and I have always worked part time to support daughter through school etc. I am not materialistic in anyway and really just want to leave with enough to make sure I’m supported and ok as I get older and will be getting a full time job to support myself . I’m 42, he’s 52.
we have jointly agreed that he is giving me a lump of money from the house where I can buy a house outright and then have a lump (£60k) in the bank. He is then giving me a decent amount in maintenance per month and I know he will always support my daughter because he is a wonderful man and even if things turn sour between us, he won’t let her down.
my question is regards to the consent order once divorced. I have requested 15% of his pension (I will be getting a full time job moving forwards when everything settles down a bit more). I have read that the judge can throw out a consent order if they deem it to be unfair for one party. I know that 15% may not seem a lot but I am happy with this and do just want to move out of the house because obviously it’s difficult and be able to move forwards with our beautiful girl at the centre of all that we do. Surely if we are both in agreement with this and it’s what we both want, the consent order can be passed?!! We have both had legal advice so neither of us are going into it blindly but obviously it’s worrying us both as we just want to move on without the worry that it won’t get accepted?
can anyone offer any advice on this at all?