Solicitors costs or mediators

[Loubee2000]

Can anyone give me advice as to how much using solicitor costs for divorce? Can anyone recommend a good one that won’t rack up loads of charges which I’m told by my husband will happen. I just don’t know what to do mediation isnt working as we just can’t agree on anything.

I'm sorry you are going through this. Good ways to keep the costs down, you can file yourself, the form online is really easy and realistically you don't need a solicitor to complete it for you. Agree on as much as you can between you first as it will make completing the consent order a lot easier. I'm using Thornton Jones, my solicitor has been lovely and is very clear on my options and what will cost me more, what I can do myself. She actually told me not to pay her to apply but to do it myself. She was right.

Thank you for this. Mediation isn’t working, he’s trying to bully me into settling for as little as possible

Put where you roughly are in the country and posters will message you with solicitors details.

Edited to add: Solicitors charge for receiving and dealing with letters from the other party. This is one way for the other party to rack up charges for you.

If he is bullying you then that means mediation won’t work. He is entitled to try t9 get the best outcome for himself which may seem personal but that is what you should be doing to. But he isn’t allowed to threaten or coerce you into an agreement. If he is a bully you are going to spend a lot of money to achieve what others can achieve very cheap and quickly through mediation.

Hiw much you spend will depend on how difficult and unreasonable he is and how complex the situation is. Your mental health and resilience will inform how much or how little you use lawyers. If opening, reading and replying to a letter is too much for you then you ma6 need to use a lawyer. This will rack up costs.

I’m in the West Midlands / Warwickshire - and recommendations would be greatly appreciated x

Agree with lemonTT

depends on what exactly he’s doing. He can and will fight his own corner to try to maximise his share, as you will yours. What firm that takes determines whether he’s bullying or just not agreeing with your view and protecting his position.

depending on your circumstances, what assets there and what value you are both disagreeing over should determine how much you spend to resolve it

if he’s genuinely bullying you , ( ie threats of harm or blackmail etc) then mediation isn’t for you