First mediation - what to expect.

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Please help... I'm nervous as I have my first mediation meeting this week. H has one too then we will have one together (I think). What can I expect? I don't really know what mediators do. What information will they want and what is the outcome or action point of the meeting? Why is it 1.5 hours??

If you are having separate meetings it sounds as if you are going for a MIAM - mediation information and assessment meeting.

They are conducted individually to give you and your ex information about how mediation works and to check that mediation is suitable. For example, if there has been domestic violence it may not be suitable or there may need to be extra safeguards that the mediator can discuss with you.

Each session lasts a maximum of 1.5 hours as that is enough for anyone . How many sessions you need depends on you - some people can quickly sort out all issues (children and money) while others take a lot longer. The mediator will stop the sessions if it is clear that you can't reach an agreement. For example, if your ex won't give any financial disclosure.

At the MIAM the mediator should explain how the future joint sessions will work - normally involving setting an agenda , recap on rules on mediation and then trying to progress matters.

As all mediators have different ways of working your best bet is to look at the mediators website for information. However every mediation is different as it is meant to work at your pace and deal with the issues you as a couple need to sort out.

Good luck