CM for 16 yo - why do I feel conflicted.

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Split from Ex last August. Despite grand posturing about 50/50 a residence split for DS 16, he has spent a grand total of 4 nights at Ex's house.

Was hoping that he would do the mature, right thing and pay regular maintenance, but I have had a total of £200 and that was only because I shamed him into it.

He earns slightly more than me.

Have had enough now after the last ignored request to sort it out between ourselves and this evening I have finally raised a case with CMS.
I Feel bizarrely wretched and disloyal especially as DS has just given me some sob story about how broke Ex is, but ultimately he should surely be providing for his son?

Simple if he gets your son involved - Tell DS you are just as broke as dad has more income.

He is a piece of work for involving your son. Don't let him manipulate you OP. If he is truly broke he'll have to pay very little, but he does not get to wriggle out if his responsibilities.

You have done the right thing. What a shame he didn't. 💕

DS just doesn't seem to get it. Just because I haven't pissed my settlement up the wall there is the assumption I have more money.

Don't get me started on agreeing a 50/50 financial order based on the understanding DS would spend equal time with both parents.