Really really long post, cut short. Me, my husband and children live with my dad. He was widowed several years ago. He has been nothing short of helpful to me but my husband feels that he’s interfering in our family life (which he’s not). I have got to the point where I am making alternative arrangements and I cannot be bothered (more will not) to inform my husband of the plans ahead as I don’t think he deserves to know. This living arrangement has caused relentless arguments and slanging matches (some in front of the children as I couldn’t hold my thoughts in my head and that I deeply regret). With this in mind, even though the arguments start with that one issue, it then proceeds to vile name calling that a husband should never call his wife (in front of children at times), waking me and the children up at silly o’clock as he’s had a few too many a number of times. He’s currently jobless and watches me try to make ends meet. Quite frankly, I’ve had enough and just needed a space to vent.