Why did you separate?

[struggling1983]

Can ask, why did you separate? For me the spark is gone and DH has got anger issues with me feeling like I am walking on eggshells all the time. Is this enough to separate?

You don't need to know anyone else's reasons, only your own. Being unhappy is enough. Live your life for you and if that means being separated from your husband so be it.

Good luck.

I agree with PP, it doesn't matter what others'reasons are. Walking on eggshells and spark is gone is a good enough reason. Are you happy? Doesn't sound it. Do the negatives out weigh the positives? If you're on here looking for advice, it sounds like it is or on the way to being mainly negative.

Life is short. Live it the way you want to.

In my experience I waited and waited, making excuses for him and thinking it would change. It never changed. It continued to deteriorate. I should have left earlier. It doesn't have to be a one off 'big' reason to leave is what i have learnt.

I spent six months and far too much on counselling worried that my reasons weren’t enough compared to other people. Coming on here didn’t always help as some people seemed to have much more reason to do it and I felt I wasn’t justified. If you’re not happy and can’t see that that will change then leave.