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Divorce/separation

Here you'll find divorce help and support from other Mners. For legal advice, you may find Advice Now guides useful.

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Tryingtobe123 · 20/01/2025 13:16

long story short i have made ‘threats’ to leave numerous times due to DP and his various issues with smoking weed and drinking alcohol everyday. enough is enough now. we have 2 small children together and after constant promises to change, and nothing actually changing i need to leave.

im just looking for advice on how to cope, how do i stop the thoughts of ‘am i doing the right thing’ there’s still love there, am i stupid to leave if there’s still some love?

i’ve lost a lot of trust due to things he’s done and im just not sure it’s ever going to return

i feel like in a way i need to stay sort of angry with him, to stay strong. is that stupid?!

do i make a list of the hurtful things he’s done, as a reminder haha

i actually feel like im going mad. 10 years with someone is such a long time, i dont even know where to start with all of this

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DustyLee123 · 20/01/2025 15:20

What you need to remember is that you’ve asked him to change and he hasn’t. He’s chosen drugs/alcohol over you. And he’s the father of your kids. I work in school and I can assure you that we know whose parents smoke weed, we can smell it on the kids and their bags.

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