Looking for some advice ahead of talking to a lawyer tomorrow. I'm preparing to leave a horrific emotionally abusing relationship where I am verbally attacked from morning to night. Husband doesn't work, but I do from home so there is no respite. I have recorded many of these on my watch without him knowing. We have a primary school age child who I do everything for. He doesn't get up until after she has gone to school, spends all day smoking weed and drinking larger in our shed or out with friends, occasionally sees her for 10 mins in the evening but spends the rest of the evening in the shed. I feed, wash, clothe, do school runs, do days out and even our recent holidays solo. I do all child related appointments on my own.
I have spoken to women's aid and police, as we are joint mortgage holders and he hasn't physically attacked me he cannot be removed from the property. He has already accused me of trying to brainwash and alienate our child and I am scared when I take her with me he will just take her back, either from school or the child minder, and I wouldn't be able to get her back. I don't think is fit to look after her and that he would only do this to punish me. She had told me when I'm out (on a work trip or to walk the dog) on occasion he has told her mummy loves the dog more than her, and says things like 'when you go out I'm going to throw your toys away'.
Longer term I will obviously be going for main carer etc but it's the immediate aftermath after leaving I'm concerned about. Has anyone gone through something similar and have any advice or questions I should be asking during my legal call tomorrow?