What to do?

[Mumofdirtandglitter]

I've been married over 17 years together nearly 24 years. I feel fed up. How do I know it's time to call it quits? And how do I do it?
We've got a 10 and 12 year old but I feel we're on different paths. I want to travel, see the world but he'd rather stay home and have thousands in the bank. We're not moving in the same direction and we go through cycles of falling out. I'm.perimenopausal and sex is off the cards but part of me thinks it's because our relationship is gone. We moved nearly 3 years ago to the village I grew up in from the house I loved and was finished to a new house that needs new bathrooms flooring etc. I did it for him. I work part time and he always brings up how little I contribute but we made a decision for me to change career 6 years ago to raise the kids. He has no interest in date nights. What a pickle, what to do?

I've separated from my husband nearly 4 months ago BUT we have had problems for years, probably close to a decade, and were pretty checked out of the relationship for the last year.

Peri is obviously your hormones going crazy so don't make a rash decision - weigh it up.

My life is easier now even though I'm doing 99% of everything, because I can rely on myself and I couldn't rely on him. I found it exhausting to have to put into words things that needed doing, explain them, pretend it was OK when it got fucked up or forgotten.... easier to just do it myself!