Regretting the divorce

[Angeldelight21]

Hi all,
So the divorce is something we both wanted and it is finalised now. I'm having huge regrets now mostly about our 3 years old.

I don't know if it's the loss of family I'm grieving or just forgotten the bad things in our relationship?

Our DD loves her Dad sooo much and hardly wants to come in the house to see me when Dad drops her off.

I'm feeling a huge guilt about the divorce, but it's done.

Can someone to share a piece of wisdom on how to overcome this emotional hurdle? How to cope with the loss of family?

TIA

Do you think you should have worked to keep it going or do you think you should re-try things?

If so how is he on this?

I do get how you feel - not my decision even though had checked out, but I regret our split 2 years ago. In terms of how we are both paying for 2 houses, lost money etc. which ultimately affects the kids. That friends and having that close person not there anymore. Dont get me wrong - I now hate her with a passion with her vindictive and nasty behaviour post divorce, but still get that.

Just try to focus on doing things differently - maybe make house look different if was marital home. Do different holidays, do days out differently so they are not just the same as you and ex used to do.

Hi @BeerAndMusic no, unfortunately him being extremely stubborn and brainwashed by his family, he would not reconcile.

Your DD is three, she will adjust, just give it time. As for you, can you afford some therapy sessions to help you to rationalise to yourself why you got divorced and help you to look forwards and start living again? It is a huge upheaval to get divorced, but now that it's done and you say there is no going back, you really need to take a deep breath and start rebuilding your life and planning for the future.