I have been appointed a QLR at court for questioning. who has asked me for questions to put forward. I've not shared the bundle as it's over 1000 pages. would be grateful for advice on:
- what documents should I share
- what questions to ask
- any tips on how best to share info so its clear for QLR
I feel so jumbled in my head.
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I am in a childcare order court case from a covert domestic abuse relationship of our two adolescent children less than 16 years. he left me for 2 women, one who has now left him and allegedly reported him for rape. the other has admitted they have been romantically together for the last 7 years.
There was drug use, grooming, and sexual abuse of me and other women (he was exchanging scat videos, dick pics and nudes with his brothers gf. The police had acknowledged the relationship was toxic and told me to distance myself but said domestic abuse and coercive control was unfounded, as was sexual abuse and rape. He has also passed a DBS check (despite previously being arrested for rape, losing his job at a university for sexual harassment, and having multiple sexual assault police reports against him.
He has presented a negative drug test result showing he has been clean for the drug tested in last 3 months, which cannot test for date rape drug GHB which he has been making, taking and giving to other women.
The children are with me full time and he wants them for half. He initially had 50%, but due to drug risk, sexual abuse claims and keeping the kids up with loud sex, I took over full custody.
He's claiming parental alienation and that I am unsafe. I had supported contact at a contact centre but the children refused to attend.
My ex is the applicant with a legal team whilst I am the respondant and self-litigating. We are about to go into a pre-trial hearing and I want to ask for a section 7, so the judge can hear the experience and wishes directly from the children, he told them he had a secret love child which he has kept hidden for 18 years.
I am scared of my ex as he is extremely convincing and am scared to go up against him in court as he is extremely good at twisting reality to paint a terrible picture of me as a parent, and I'm scared the kids will be forced to go to him.