Why do others defend this?

[OceanTurtle]

Why do others defend men not paying maintenance for their children? My ex hasn’t paid maintenance for our 4 children in 2 years now because he is on benefits and has priority debt so doesn’t need to pay, it’s been 2 YEARS. I know for a fact he is earning on the side and mentioned this on a group and what I can do about it. Well a man commented saying how do you know, I said because he told me and he told me there was NO way my ex would tell me this, I’m obviously a liar and a money grabber and just trying to alienate the other parent! How can people defend this? He told me I was clearly just trying to cause trouble wtaf?

I don't defend them. I think they are scum

Yeah I wouldn't worry about what a random man who you don't even know, says.

The internet is full of people defending the indefensible.

Sounds like one spineless excuse for a man sticking up for another.

He's a bloke who doesn't like women very much. I wouldn't give it any more thought.

I don't know but I don't think that there should be the option of £7a week or no maintenance. I think that there should be a minimum that every NRP is required to pay regardless of their earnings because the RP will need to find the money to raise their child regardless of what they earn, if they didn't it would be deemed as neglect, so why shouldn't the NRP have to do the same.

Your ex is a total scumbag, along with anyone who doesn't pay maintenance but could.

My DH ex wife has the kids EOW. She doesn't pay a penny of maintenance and my DH has never gone after her for it as he is a high earner and doesn't need it. That is all well and good except she also chose to immediately stop her contribution to their school lunches and extracurricular music after the custody arrangements changed from 50/50.

Her reasoning presumably being 'why should I, if they aren't with me?'
When that is actually even more reason to pay!

The funniest part is she has accused him of financial abuse on multiple occasions.