I recently ended my 15 year marriage, and I’m struggling to navigate it all. How did you tell your children? How do you divide things when your ex is purposely awkward and bitter about the separation? I’m trying my best to be civil and diffuse things etc and act normal in front of the children for the time being.
I worked on the marriage for 8 years, and I’m very drained. I just want things to go smoothly for the children. I’m thinking of telling them when he’s ready to move out? So he’d find a place, move his things, then tell them. Then they could maybe go see his new place and have a sleepover and try make it more pleasant?
I feel terrible. But I know children notice! And I’d rather them have happy parents separately than miserable ones in their own home. I’m sure it’ll be upsetting for them, the mum guilt is taking over already. But they have friends with divorced parents etc so it isn’t a new concept to them, and once they’re in a routine I imagine they’ll get use to it? Or am I way off? :/