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Divorce/separation

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Regretting family court

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RBush22 · 07/01/2025 21:18

I am in the middle of separating from ex. I was on maternity leave for over a year during which I said I wanted to separate. I thought it would all be over by the time I went back to work full time last month but it's not. I have always been primary carer but now that I'm working full time, he has suddenly stepped up and is looking after the kids (he has no job) - one is not in nursery and the other is in part time nursery. Will I now lose primary carer status?

I also can't concentrate at work as I'm so stressed about the separation and what my future holds. I also hate being away from my children.
Will he now be primary carer? Should I get a loan and go part time? I'm so sad and stressed. I thought I had a plan but it's all backfired.
I'm even contemplating offering to try to reconcile our relationship through counselling - family court feels so brutal - am I insane?

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Mumof3confused · 07/01/2025 23:55

He’s unlikely to get any more than 50:50 shared care.

He will also have to work to support himself.

DaftyLass · 08/01/2025 00:02

If he is looking after them full time, he would at least get 50 50, if not be considered primary

OhcantthInkofaname · 08/01/2025 00:53

Who is paying for his expenses? Feeding him?

Monty27 · 08/01/2025 01:02

Where does he look after DC's?

Mumof3confused · 08/01/2025 10:31

DaftyLass · 08/01/2025 00:02

If he is looking after them full time, he would at least get 50 50, if not be considered primary

Why would he be considered primary? He will get 50% at most and it will be a shared care arrangement.

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