Me and my ex split many years ago. Terrible relationship domestics, He had many issues drug use, alcoholism and everything that comes with it. I tried very hard for him to still have a relationship with the children. 2023 we hit a wall. He lives with his mother and father. June 2023 grandparents said the children are no longer welcome at there flat, father wasn’t coming to my home as he stole money/items in the past. Father said he couldn’t take the kids out because of owing money to drug dealers. Fast forward to June 2024 father got in contact and claimed he is drug and drink free and changed his life for the better. I did not trust this. September 2024 after mediation we ended up in court. There was court orders father isn’t allowed drink and drugs etc and he sees them one day a week and we were ordered to download a parent app to communicate for more contact with the children if the one day a week was going well. He has started to see them then more but the more contact we have the worse the communication is. He has made comments about us getting back together in the parent app, made sexual suggestions about me and other comments. He recently asked me for money for some shoes for the children. I solely provide for them he doesn’t give me a penny so I said no I got a lot of abuse. How much of a terrible mother I am, I neglect them I care more about myself than the children etc he brings up my own childhood saying I will abandon my children like my mother did me etc. he has been pulling up outside my home but the court order says he is to meet the children on a street nearby. I try to ignore these comments and stick to talking about the children but it really does effect me and get me down. I have tried to see what I can do about the comments he’s made, I’ve rang court, cafcas there’s seems there is nothing I can do? I really can’t put up with it any longer I’ve had mental breakdowns because of him in the past I can feel my anxiety building up and mental health returning. I feel like I’m going to have to continue with the verbal abuse and inappropriate comments I just feel like deleting the app but I will be breaking the order if I do. Does anybody know where I could go from here. Is there anything I could do to put a stop to the comments and just focus on the children. I have asked about legal aid i may not qualify and I can’t afford a solicitor