Childish ex

[pumpkincorn]

My husband left me and now is trying to be dad of the year to our 10year old boy. He's never been interest in our boy and didn't have time for him when we lived together. I want my son to have a dad and if they have a good relationship now then I think that's wonderful.

It just really pisses me off how my ex doesn't message me regarding my son he just messages my son and then he asks my permission which usually is yes unless other plans are made.

Earlier when he dropped him off I was stood waiting at the top of the hill to our house because we had bad snow and that's where I took our boy earlier in the day at his dads request.

I stood there clearly visible and he drove straight past me and to my house after my son had also confirmed I was to meet him where he was collected. I walked back to my house where my ex had a black bag of bits to collect my son gave him this and he drove off

I don't get his behaviour he's so bitter and nasty and it's him that's left and said he didn't love me and all the rest but I don't understand the bitterness is it because I'm not begging and making a fool of myself

Yeah, he wants a reaction. Grey rock is thr way to go

That’s frustrating. Course of least resistance maybe best though? Don’t seek to engage with him again for a long time. Could make it worse. Reads like he wants and is trying to have a relationship now with his son (a good thing) but that he doesn’t want contact at all with you. Maybe let he and your son liaise direct so long as you are kept in the loop. You might be Resident Parent but can kinda see his point about not having a gatekeeper to be able to contact his son. I’d of hated that with DC. Maybe some prefer liaison via co-parents direct but that’s not always feasible. New Year New You though so don’t sweat the small stuff and don’t let him get you down.

Should add might not be nastiness/bitterness. Could just be he is done and his behaviour linked to what he said when he left. No more no less. Doesn’t sound like he wants you to beg or that he resents that you aren’t. His loss I am sure but might be as sometimes happens he just doesn’t want any interaction between you both.