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Divorcing foreign-based husband. Couple of questions

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luluwho · 05/01/2025 17:30

I'm a British female whose husband was deported from the UK nearly 7 years ago, following serious domestic abuse. He received a criminal conviction and had has spousal visa revoked. Our shared child was a young baby at the time and has had no contact with his father since then.
I'm looking to commence divorce proceeding against my husband. There are various reasons I haven't done it sooner but that's another story.
Couple of concerns I have and hoping that some knowledgeable readers on this forum might be able to answer:

I've bought a house (totally alone and with my own money) since the split. I bought this about 4 years ago.

Husband and I had no joint finances.

Obviously, during the divorce process, I'd need my address to be kept hidden from him (due to threats about having our child abducted. Husband has a lot of UK-based friends). I had to move to a totally new area for safety reasons after we split. Would my address be kept confidential if I request this when I hire a solicitor?

Secondly, would my husband be made aware of my assets (my house and pensions)? Just to reiterate, he's had no input into any of my assets. In fact it was actually me keeping him when we were together. All his own earning got sent to his family back home.
I had heard that a full financial disclosure would be necessary if he pays for this and pursues it through the UK courts? Unlikely, considering he's rather poor and had no financial means back in his own country.

Finally, would we be granted any automatic access to our child as part of the divorce process? He's had no involvement or contact since child was a young baby. Even then, he provided no support or help. It was myself and my family who were providing everything for the baby whilst my husband was sending all his money back home.

Thanks if anybody reading this is able to offer any answers.

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ByQuaintAzureWasp · 05/01/2025 17:35

You should have a financial order, during the divorce process. You both divulge your assets/savings/pensions.

If you don't go through this process he could come back at any point in the future and claim against you ... I have a friend that this happened to.

You need some good legal advise as a first step.

Paradisegained · 05/01/2025 17:37

You need a solicitor and your solicitor to advise. I was allowed to keep my address away from my ex it all went to my solicitor.
Divorce
Finances
Baby

all separate orders

Octavia64 · 05/01/2025 17:42

Your address can be kept confidential.

Part of the divorce process is disclosing to your solicitors and to the court your financial assets.

You need to fill in a form E and so does your husband.

https://assets.publishing.service.gov.uk/media/63c132468fa8f516ac0d5a6d/FormEE0123save.pdf

People do lie on these forms but it's not a good idea.

Under normal circumstances your husband will see your form and you will see his.

hawkinsfamilylaw.co.uk/family-law-advice/what-is-a-form-e-in-divorce/#:~:text=Yes%2C%20your%20ex%20will%20see,assets%20that%20exist%20between%20them.

Snorlaxo · 05/01/2025 17:43

If he’s poor then surely he’s more likely to try his luck with getting 50% of your current assets because 50% of his assets would be hardly anything. It sounds like using a solicitor would be safest so that they can keep you safer.
The child contact issue is separate and he can ask a court at any time even if he’s not seen the child in years but the cost of travelling to the UK would hopefully make it prohibitive. If you are worried about kidnapping then I believe that you could put an alert on your child’s passport so that you are notified if anyone tries to use it to get your child out of the country. Is your ex’s country a signatory to The Hague Convention ? if so, the police in his country would help find your child if they were kidnapped and taken to the country.

Mumof3confused · 05/01/2025 18:01
  1. yes you can keep your address secret
  2. divorcing him is separate from financial proceedings. You can do the divorce without sorting out a financial order, but for as long as you haven’t done a financial order you’re vulnerable. Get legal advice about this.
  3. he’s unlikely to get any access to your child and he would have to put in a separate court application for this.

Do you know where he lives/how to contact him?

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