Probably will be told I am being a t**t and overreacting but have really reached the end of my tether with ex-wife and now blocked all comms with her. Anything she needs to know can go through my 16yo.
She has constantly been abusive since we split and the last month or two has really angered me. She bangs on about co-parenting and respect yet acts the opposite.
It did pick up a little a year ago but went downhill in Sept. She was away and I was having kids that week. I had a short notice work trip to go on so had thought about DS being in charge for 1 night or more likely my GF coming over for the night. As it turned out my DD told me she was having a sleepover at friends as she often does, so not an issue - but unknown to me she stays at mums house with her mates, I only found out next day as one of the mums checked to see if another friend had slept round mine. Apparently all my fault and got very hostile and abusive to me over it.
in Nov I asked about taking 14yo DD on holiday over Xmas (DS 16 had said he would not want to go so would stay here). Flat no, not even discussed even though DD said she wanted to go, which I found very selfish and not acting in DD interests.
I find out over Xmas that she has told my Aunt that DD didnt want to go, lie about how much I had them last Xmas to justify it so that now my Aunt thinks I was out of order! That is now two family members she has lied to about me.
Then I find out today that she had DD 2nd ear piercings done over Xmas. Despite us discussing it around October saying I wanted to wait till 16 for this (especially has her behaviour had been bad and I did not want this to be a reward). I find out by chance tonight as DD moved her hair. Not even a message over Xmas to tell me that it was happening/happened and we had agreed not to do it in Oct. I appreciate its a small thing but its the principle of it when we are supposed to be co-parenting and for the umpteenth time, double standards.