Hi, please be kind.
I have two young DC, and married over a decade. I have been struggling with feeling ignored and used as a maid/housekeeper by my H for a long time. Things have gotten much worse lately and I can't give details bc it's outing potentially but my counsellor says it's an abusive situation.
If I leave, I will be starting from complete scratch.
I have a job- I have good qualifications, but only PT hours at the moment (youngest is a baby) and I can improve my earnings but it will be a 6 months or so before I can do that. I also will have no car (the only vehicle we have is his) I've seen a couple of more affordable locally but I'll have to save hard to buy one out right.
I don't have a network as such, no friends, family, etc.
He hates me, he's only staying bc it's more convenient for him. I'm trying to reduce how much of his housework i do, while still playing for time, I can't piss him off or do anything noticeable until I am more sorted.
I have started to get my act together - I've got a bag with our documents in, I have a little bit of savings, not much but I'm working on it. and as soon as things reopen I'm going to get advice about where I stand but basically I just need a bit of a hand hold. I know I can do it, but the challenges seem vast atm.
Has anyone else made it on their own?